Big Fat Positive podcast episode : Pregnancy Do-Overs, Baby Showers and Frozen Embryos: Q&A

Pregnancy Do-Overs, Baby Showers and Frozen Embryos: Q&A

October 16, 2020

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Laura and Shanna wrap up their “Checkin’ the Inbox” segment from Episode 118 and answer more listener questions. They discuss frozen embryos, pregnancy do-overs, COVID baby showers and more!

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Episode Transcript

Laura

Hi, welcome to Big Fat Positive with Shanna and Laura. This is a very special bonus episode, another Checking the Inbox episode where we answer questions about pregnancy do-overs, staying awake, and embryos in limbo. Let's get started.

Hey, Shanna. Hi. So OK, we are turning this into a little cottage industry, our little advice column podcast. Oh, I love it. Yes. Side project.

Shanna

It's so fun. I love answering these questions.

Laura

I do too. I hope everyone likes hearing them. I'm guessing because we got so many questions that people do like to hear us answer these questions. So we should get right to it. Shanna, do you want to hit us with the first question for this bonus app?

Shanna

Oh yeah. How did you teach your babies to drink from a straw cup? Mine is having trouble.

Laura

Laura, you have any thoughts on this one? Yeah. So I did what my mommy and me teacher taught us to do, which was you take a straw, like a regular straw basically, or if you have a kids size straw, I guess it'll work too. But you want like an actual sort of firmer straw because otherwise it won't work. And you dip it in water, put your finger over the top so it's holding the water, and then you hold it underneath, you know, you hold it to the baby's lips, basically, and let it slowly, like, let them try to, like, first you let it slowly trickle in so that they know, oh, water in straw, the water is in the straw. And then you let them try to actually like you hold your finger longer and let them try to suck it out so that they know to use pressure to suck it out. And then the next step is just you give them a straw cup and see what happens. So that worked for us.

I think that's sort of the method. But so yeah, if you can go and get a straw and just sort of start introducing the idea that there is water in here, because it could be a thing where it's like, they don't know the water's in there. Also, trying a couple different kinds of straw cups. Because there's like our first one was a Zoli cup, Z-O-L-I. It had a really little straw that was good for young, young kids. So that was a good starter one. And now we use the munchkin ones that everyone uses and then I mean, I'm not everyone, but I just, I feel like I see them on the playground all the time. And then we also have like a, we actually have a hydro flask one that we got from my sister-in-law, which he likes too, but it has like a, it has kind of a hard spout, but you have to suck it up like a straw. So, but yeah, you can try. I mean, there's so many different ones out there.

And I'm sure there's some that are purported to be more useful for kids who are having trouble with it. So I would, I would go there.

Shanna

Yeah, some of the straw cups are difficult to sip through because they're made to be spill-proof. I think is what I've noticed. And so, yeah, the simpler you can get with teaching and having no resistance to that sip and flow. I think will be easier for the little kids. Little babies, I guess I would say. Little babies, yeah. Yeah. So with the technique you're speaking of, where you put your finger on it and dip, this is reminding me of, tell me if I'm thinking of the right move. When a bartender makes a margarita and they need to test and see if there's enough alcohol in it or something, they dip a random straw in, pick up a little bit, and then put it in their mouth. Is that the kind of technique you're talking about? That is exactly the technique I'm talking about. Yes. Perfect. Got it. The dip and taste. The dip and taste. Okay, cool. Okay, what's the next question?

Laura

All right, this one's for you, Shanna. Ooh. They ask, what did Shanna do with her frozen embryos?

Shanna

Nothing yet.

Oh, you know, it's like it was already kind of a hard decision. I wasn't sure what to do. And then just life got hard in 2020 for various reasons. And I know it did. I'm shocker, right? So it's the last thing that's been on my mind. Last year, I think I just like automatically got billed for another year of storage because I had a credit at the fertility clinic and I, you know, didn't do anything about it last year. And so. My deadline is actually coming up. It's like in 10 days or something. Oh, day. I know. I need to make it. We, I guess, Steve and I, he's part of this, need to make a decision about what to do. Get pregnant with all of them and have more babies.

Laura

So wait, how many are left? Six. Oh my god, you could have six toplets.

Shanna

I know, right? Oh, and five of them are boys. I know that. And then you could have a reality show. Oh, I could. Well, that's what I always wanted in life. So this is perfect.

Oh, I don't know. I joke about it because I'm just so unsure. And it's just such an odd topic. I really, I don't know. But when I do decide, I'm sure I'll let everybody know.

Laura

Yeah. Well, we definitely want to know if you're willing to share that with us.

Shanna

Yeah.

Laura

But I think I'd be like you. I probably just keep paying it out of convenience and being able to kick the can down the road, basically. Yes.

Shanna

Mm-hmm. Yeah, that's what we've been up to.

Laura

Ten more days to decide if we want to keep doing that, though. Okay, Shanna, I'm loving answering these questions, but we need to take a quick break and then come back with the rest of them.

Okay.

Laura

Okay, we are back and we've got more questions from our listeners. Let's get to it. Shanna, what's the next one? All right.

Shanna

Next question is, what are your daily routines at this time from wake up to sleep? Love the show. Thank you, thank you. Laura, what's a brief overview of what you guys have on your routine these days?

Laura

Okay, let's just pick a typical weekday that's like a me day because Corey and I kind of alternate days. Oh, so it's say it's a Wednesday toddler will wake up about 6 30 to 7 lately. He's been sleeping until like seven, which is really awesome.

Shanna

Although, okay, rub it in.

Laura

I know it doesn't make much difference for me because Cory takes every morning.

Shanna

So that's right.

Laura

You know, but it does a little bit because I always keep the monitor on my side of the bed until the morning because I'm kind of on nighttime duty and it's kind of an easy duty because he usually doesn't do anything. Although he wakes up like almost inevitably every night I'll hear a cry at like 3 a.m. and it's like in his sleep or something. He doesn't his head's not up. Nothing's happened. So Anyway, so Corey goes out, takes him out of the crib, makes him breakfast. I look at my phone for about a half hour, get ready for the morning, and then I come out and join them at about 8.15. And still we're nursing in the morning. So I'll have, he's like, it's so funny, because sometimes when he wakes up, Corey will go in and I can hear he's going like, ma ma ma ma ma ma, right?

And like sometimes when I'm still getting ready in the morning, I hear him like get upset about something and be like ma ma ma ma. Then when I come out Corey will be like look who's here and he'll look up at me and go boob a time.

No mama nothing.

Laura

So we do bubu time for, you know, 10, 15 minutes. Then we try to get out of the house. So I stuff my face with some food, usually like a bagel or something. And then we either try to go on a walk or just hang out out in the backyard if weather allows. And that will take us to about 10.30. When we come back in and we'll start making his lunch, the goal is to have lunch for him ready at 11.15. And lunch takes about 15 minutes to a half hour, depending on how attentive he is and how many extra raspberries he wants at the end. And then we start getting ready for nap time about 11.45. Usually he's down for his nap, so we do We do change them into a onesie and a sleep sack, and we sing songs, and we read books, and sometimes booba time, sometimes not, brush his teeth, and then put him down. So it's usually by 12. 15, he's asleep.

Shanna

I'm impressed that you brush his teeth before nap.

Laura

We just started doing that. I'd say like four out of seven days, we actually remembered to do that. Because you're supposed to do it two times a day. We don't do it in the morning. So we're trying to do it after his lunch to sneak it in. But it's usually the one we're not too concerned about either. If he grabs it and does three swipes, we're like, good enough.

And then he'll usually sleep an hour 40 to two and a half hours. It really depends. But I feel like his deal is an hour 40 to two hours. So then he's up around two. And so then two to five is like free play times. We either plays or we go out. If it's cool enough, we go outside for another walk or go to a park or something. And then I'm usually cooking dinner. Corey will re-emerge and come back in like around 4.45 or 5. So I can try to figure some dinner out. And then we eat dinner around 5.30, all of us, which I've completely gotten used to. Yeah. If it's like 6.30 and I haven't eaten, my stomach is growling. Dinner takes forever for some reason these days. So then we're done by like

6, 6, 15, then he has a bath, and then he's usually in bed by, you know, we do bath, then we do more books, stories, sleep sack, all that stuff, brush your teeth, and then sometimes we would time, sometimes not. And then he's in bed, usually he's in bed right around seven. So he's kind of a seven to seven guy these days with variation. Yeah, it's fantastic. And then Corey and I go and watch Netflix. Yes. And I knit. I'm trying to knit.

Shanna

It's the best part of the day. Oh, good.

Laura

Instead of, because I was looking at my phone, I was like, why am I looking at my phone and watching TV? This is stupid. Like, I should be doing something that makes me feel calmer. So right now I'm knitting a toy for a friend who just had a baby. Aw, cool.

Shanna

Yeah.

Laura

All right, that was long, but they asked for details. So I want to hear yours. So what about you, Shanna? What's your schedule like?

Shanna

Well, it's pretty similar. The only things I'm kind of rigid about are the times of meals. Lunch is also at 11. Dinner, usually I start making at five. Nap is around noon. But everything in between is pretty flexible because Steve and I both work full-time jobs at home. Who knows when we're going to have a meeting. I have to attend to something. I get a copy request to write something. So I have to be really flexible. But in general, the morning time is when we do preschool in our little, new little preschool area. And afternoon is... Adorable.

Laura

If people haven't seen, go to our Instagram or Facebook and check out the adorable preschool Shanna put together. Thank you. It's so cute.

Shanna

It's so cute. I want to go.

Laura

I want to go to that preschool.

Shanna

Yeah, sign up Laura.

Oh my goodness. And then our afternoons generally, it's outside time. So playing in the backyard, swimming, what have you. So yeah, it's pretty much about rigid mealtimes with flexibility in between.

Laura

I like that. Okay, so you know what? That actually kind of leads into this next question, which I think is mostly for you. Okay. How do you manage to get so much work done with toddlers in the house? So, Shawnee, as people know, you and Steve both are working full-time from home in addition to making and producing the podcast, in addition to having two young children.

How do you do it?

Shanna

Oh, let's see. What are the real secrets besides just riding the wave of bursts of energy when I have them, which is always amazing. I do love that. My mother-in-law does live with us part of the year. And so when she's around, that's extremely helpful, especially during pandemic, right? When my kids can't go to other childcare. So she's really, really, really great with them. She'll watch them for bits of time while we can get stuff done. So that's great. The other way we get stuff done is during what we call rest time in the middle of the day. I guess I should have included that in my routine. But when CECE goes down for a nap, that's Elle's TV time. And I've mentioned before that she is extremely into TV. It's like her babysitter. So I can come and record the podcast. Steve can work. We get a lot done during that downtime.

So we squeeze so much in to like the two hours in the middle of the day. And yeah, tag team responsibilities. If I have a meeting, Steve watches the girls. And multitasking, I'll do stuff all the time while the girls are there playing independently or bugging the crap out of me to pay attention to them. It's just like, OK, yeah, yeah, yeah, OK, here's a snack. I'm going to keep doing the dishes. So yeah, that's my life. I don't know if that's going to help anybody, but it's the truth.

Laura

Yeah, I mean, for me, I don't have a full-time job right now, so that helps a lot. But I do edit the podcast, which takes a long time. I have to admit. and record the podcast and help, you know, I do the website and all that stuff. And I do have occasional assignments for work. I'm not as much, especially with the pandemic because there's just no time. But for me, it's kind of the same in that I just like, I weaponize nap time, basically. Nap time is, it's nap time and after bedtime. But after bedtime, so hard. It's so tiring.

Shanna

I refuse. So I refuse this pandemic. I'm just like, no, after bedtime, I've parented and worked for like 14 straight hours. I'm dead. I'm exhausted. All I want to do is eat and watch TV because I don't eat with the kids we eat later.

Laura

Yeah, that's the other thing I should say. Since we eat dinner with the toddler, that does free up a lot more time. Like it takes time out of the day, obviously, and my toddler gets a little annoyed sometimes when I have to cook dinner and he wants attention. But then once he's in bed, like it's us time, you know, whether I want to work or work on the house or just chill and watch my Netflix. But yeah, I mean, I definitely think, I think it can look to the outside world, to a lot of people. I think not just us or like us talking on the podcast, but you hear about other parents getting so much work done while they're also parenting full time. And it looks like, well, they're doing it just fine, right? Like, how come I can't get it done? And I think the truth is,

We're not getting it done as much as you think we are there's a lot of things slipping through the cracks and it's not as Easy as everyone like it's no one has it easy and no one's getting everything they want done done like it's just not happening so Cut yourself some slack if you if you think that other people just haven't figured out they don't like I really don't think anyone has it totally figured out right now and

Shanna

Oh yeah, I don't have it figured out. It's like when I'm spending time with work, I feel guilty that I'm not spending enough time with the kids. I feel like I'm letting everything else down. So even if I have a special day where everything is in line, like something inside of me is like, oh, but still I could be doing it better. I could be doing it differently. Oh, for sure.

Laura

Yeah. Yeah. But anyway, okay. What's the next question?

Shanna

Okay. I love this question. It's so good. If you could go back and do your pregnancy over, is there anything you would do different?

Laura

Well, you're pregnant now. Are you doing anything different? I know. I'm getting my do over right now. Okay. Here's the first thing that comes to mind. And then I'll tell you why it's making me laugh, which I think I would take more bump pictures.

However, am I doing that now? Am I actually remembering to do that? So maybe talking about on the podcast will remind me because the first I feel like the first pregnancy I felt kind of like What's the word I'm looking for? I felt kind of like frivolous almost taking off like, you know, self-involved, like taking bump pictures all the time. Like I didn't want to be all weird about it. And in the first pregnancy, I felt you kind of feel like it's going to last forever. So you'll be like, oh, I can take the bump picture tomorrow or whatever. Next thing you know, you have a baby and you didn't take any bump pictures. Yeah. So. This time I have taken a few. I actually have a like folder in my iPhone. So when I do take a bump picture, I put it in the folder so they can all be together. Oh, that's a good idea.

Yeah, I haven't like taken one every week or anything, but you know, I can see a progression. It's more interesting now that it's getting bigger too, like at the beginning, like whatever.

Shanna

I was gonna say my favorite bump pictures from both of my pregnancies are when I was like nine months ready to pop. It's so crazy to look at that and be like, oh my God, my stomach was so big. So that's real. It's more fun than, you know, when you're like 13 weeks pregnant. You're like, I look like I ate too many donuts.

Laura

Yeah, yeah. I look like I'm just slightly bloated. Yeah.

Shanna

Well, I want to see more of your bump pics. That's for sure.

Laura

Yeah, you've said that. We're going to put some on the Instagram. Don't worry. Okay, good. And I'll take more, but not every week. I just can't get around to that. I also don't have a good mirror for it, you know? And I never, you know, we have a toddler, so I can't ask Cory because it's like too much. It's like, well, I can either chase the toddler or take a picture. Make sure he doesn't kill himself. And then I do actually have a bit of a tangent answer, which I think might be surprising to people, which is what I wish I had done before I got pregnant. And I think you might find this surprising, Shanna, because I feel like this is very not my personality. I wish I had taken a couple nude photos of myself.

Shanna

Oh, like Boudoir photos?

Laura

Not necessarily. Just like, this is what my body looked before I had kids because there's all this talk, you know, some people, their bodies look very similar after they have kids. And it's not about like me wanting to get that body back. But I realized like, I never, I don't have, because I was always super paranoid about like, anything like that getting out. I never wanted to take nude selfies or anything. I just didn't participate in that. And so now there's no, I have no documentation of my boobs before they got this way. You know, now they're just this way. Well, they're just, they're just larger and like not as perky. So I don't know. I kind of wish I had had some pictures of myself of just to see how I looked before it happened because it's you know, it's definitely not coming back. It's different and it's not necessarily better or worse. It's just different.

Shanna

Well, hire a sketch artist from the local police department. Describe them from memory and there you go. They were like up here.

Ah, nope, nope. Nipples a little bit smaller, smaller. Yeah, yeah. Oh, there we go, there we go.

Laura

Smaller, not as dark. OK, yeah, let's, oh my god. So that's my surprising answer for that.

Shanna

That is. I like that.

Laura

Shanna, do you have something you wish you could have done differently if you had to do over?

Shanna

Oh, yes. For both pregnancies, but especially the second with CECE, I wish I could go back. and tell myself your pregnancy is going to be fine and easy and nothing's going to happen to you or your baby and you don't have to be so anxious every day that something's gonna go wrong. I was so anxious and it's because I know it's because I had two Mist miscarriages unexpected. Yeah, is right where I didn't know anything was wrong and it just oh man that really really just Scared the shit out of me so every appointment I went to I was filled with nerves every ultrasound I was like squeezing Steve's hand like okay waiting for the bad news and And like in hindsight, my pregnancies were, I was, I'm very fortunate, right? My pregnancies were great overall. Like I had morning sickness and that kind of sucked. But like how you're talking to me, how you have SBD pain and all this stuff.

Like I was so lucky I didn't have any of that. I could have enjoyed my pregnancy, I think more if my emotions weren't all in a, in a tizzy the whole time.

Laura

That's so, I mean, of course you have, PTSD leftover from those miscarriages. That makes total sense. And I'm sorry, you were suffering in that way through your pregnancy. Do you think if you were to thaw out one of those embryos and throw it up there in that old uterus of yours? of that old geriatric uterus. I mean, I didn't mean it in that way necessarily, but yeah, sure. Do you think you'd still have those anxieties? Or do you think this time you'd be able to chill out?

Shanna

I would still have them. I think I've just been colored for life. It's just that's a hard thing to go through. So unfortunately, I would just be worried, you know? But it's OK. It's just a feeling. It's not a premonition. If you're having these kinds of feelings, you know what I have to tell myself? It's not like I was psychic that that meant something was going to happen. And I think that's what I was doing too much was holding on to the nerves and the fear and like, well, it's proof that something bad is going to happen. So I've got to gear myself up and that's not true.

Laura

I remember us talking about that actually, you were really worried about like jinxing it or even starting the podcast. I remember you were concerned like, and I get that I have that the back of my mind too, you know, whenever you start talking about something, you worry about it getting jinxed or whatever. I remember talking about that with you, yeah. But it all worked out in the end. I know.

Shanna

It did. It's wonderful.

Laura

Mm-hmm. Okay, these questions are so awesome. I can't wait to answer more, but let's take a quick break and then come back.

Shanna

Alrighty.

Laura

Okay, we're back and we have more questions to answer. Woohoo!

Shanna

We have two more. Here is our penultimate question. I'm pregnant and wondering what to do about having a baby shower during COVID. Ooh, that's a bummer of a situation. Laura, what do you think about that? You being pregnant yourself?

Laura

Yeah, well, you offered to throw me a virtual sprinkle, which was very sweet of you. Yes, thank you for reminding me. I mean, we have time. We have time and also sprinkle like a light sprinkle. Maybe it's just a mist. Yeah, we'll do a baby mist. A baby mist. a baby fog.

But yeah, if it had been my first baby, I think I mentioned this on the podcast, it would have been much harder, right? Because for a couple of reasons. One is you want to have the big celebration. Second is you like really do need a lot of that stuff. I think, you know, some people don't have baby registries and more power to them. But I mean, I really needed a lot of that stuff. I guess we could have bought it for ourselves, you know? But that's part of the ritual and people want to be generous and people want to get you stuff. It's like a wedding. People want to get you stuff. A lot of that stuff is incredibly useful. I'm still using stuff from the baby registry every day. So I would say that definitely have a registry. People are still going to want to be generous, maybe more so because they know that you're missing out on all the normal stuff that we had before times.

Someone told me in BC before COVID.

Yeah. 2019 BC. But then you can do, depending on where your family is, you can have a Zoom. Also, the cool thing is that if you do a Zoom baby shower or whatever, you can invite people who you would never have been able to see otherwise at your actual shower. And you can keep it short. I feel like, I don't know, my baby shower was absolutely lovely, but I do remember at the end of it being like, I am so tired. I need you people to leave the house. I need to lie down because you're super pregnant and you're just like, I have been socializing forever. So the nice thing about virtual is that you can kind of cut it off when you need to, right?

Shanna

Yeah.

Laura

And I don't know, what do you think?

Shanna

Yeah, I think that's a great option. Another option, if you want to do something where you see people's faces and you can get dressed up and you could do one of these parade drive-by celebrations that people have been doing where, you know, I'm assuming social distances factoring into this, right? You don't want to have a gathering of people in person, which is why you're asking about it. So maybe something where everyone drives by. I've heard so much of this in my neighborhood honking that you can decorate your yard. People can like get out and set a present down in the gift area that's far from you, but you can like blow kisses. And that might feel more fun and celebratory. So I might do something like that for the people who are in town.

Laura

Yeah. I think that could be really fun. And you know what? It's going to be memorable. I feel like I've been to a lot of friends' baby showers and they kind of blur together eventually, you know, because they got the same thing happening at a lot of them. But you're going to remember the COVID baby shower. Yeah. So maybe try to embrace that. Yeah. But definitely load up that registry. Also, because you don't have to invite, quote, unquote, everyone who's just local or close friends, you can like invite quote-unquote everyone and just get lots of gifts.

Shanna

And if you're looking for suggestions of what to put on your registry, Laura and I created a baby registry, this on our website. So check it out.

Laura

Yeah, Big Fat Positive podcast.com slash registry and you can see all of our recommendations. Yeah.

Shanna

All right, Laura, we have our last question.

Laura

OK, we have a doozy for our last question. Think back. You got to roll back the time machine. OK. So to BC. To the BC era. Also, BT before toddler. OK, the question is, how do you stay awake when feeding at 3 AM? Oh my god.

Shanna

Oh, that's such a good question. My God, that was hard. Yeah. Well, my phone definitely was a big helper, right? Like dragging myself awake to feed the baby and then just like putting on that phone, having that bright light. in my eyes, doing something, anything, Facebook. I think I was addicted to some word game on there at that point or something like that. Also, I think I was, I would watch TV in the middle of the night. I would sit up in my bed, I put a TV in the room and put on great British baking show or something, just any stimulation to help stay awake. And even still, I remember nodding off and being like, my God, this is so hard.

Laura

Cause you're already so fucking tired.

Shanna

So tired.

Laura

It's not just that it's 3 AM. It's that you've been up every like two to three hours for a couple of weeks. Yeah. Yes.

Shanna

It's so tough. If I had an even harder time staying awake, I imagine I would like maybe get creative and maybe cruel to myself, like have a bottle, a spray bottle of ice water next to me or something and spray my face or I don't know because I don't really did not want to fall asleep in bed while the baby was nursing.

Laura

Yeah, because it can be dangerous. Yeah.

Shanna

Did you have any tips or tricks for that one?

Laura

I mean, my phone was also very crucial. I think, like you said, doing something that engages your mind as opposed to just being passive, I think is important, like doing a word game or a puzzle game. So you actually have to be paying attention. Yeah. Because for me, if I was just trying to read or watch TV, I think that would make me not off.

Shanna

Yeah, reading puts me to sleep. Mm-hmm.

Laura

So if you can find a game to play on your phone that requires some kind of analysis or critical thinking. I think that would help because you actually have to be active in it.

Shanna

I love that idea.

Laura

Yeah. I mean, it's tough because you also, it's this fine line because you don't want to wake yourself up too much so you can't go back to sleep.

Shanna

Yeah. And you want the room to stay dim.

Laura

But you need to stay awake for the feeding.

Shanna

Yeah.

Laura

Yeah. I would also say if it's getting to you too much and you have a partner and you're pumping maybe like occasionally just let the partner do it with a bottle. so you can keep sleeping.

Shanna

Oh yeah, after a while that's what we did.

Laura

Don't necessarily take every single one. Yeah.

Shanna

Yeah, Steve would take the 1am feeding or whatever. That was so helpful.

Laura

Or just make them. I know it's not great, but if you are really concerned about staying up, nudge your partner if you have one and be like, I need you to talk to me right now. Yeah, that's a good idea. It reminds me of when you're on a long car ride, you know, and I've driven across the country a few times. And I remember there were times where I'm like, you know, I'd be listening to my audiobook and I was like, this is not working. And I'd be like, okay, we need to have a conversation. Like talk. I need to talk to you. And for me, you probably can tell because I have a podcast with you. You know, I like talking. So if I was talking actively, it kept me awake.

Shanna

Yeah, that would be good. I could talk to your baby.

Laura

That's true. You could talk to your baby or just, you know, if you're as sleep deprived as most people, most parents are in the newborn phase, you can be like, hey partner, I'm going to talk to you. You can listen or not, just grunt every once in a while. You know what I mean? Like they probably could sleep through it, but like just tell them about your day or something.

Shanna

Yeah.

Laura

tell them about your day. So at 9 a.m. I fed, and then at 11 a.m. I fed.

Shanna

Three ounces from the right boob, two ounces from the wrong. Snoring straight through that conversation.

Laura

Yeah, yeah. But good luck with that. It doesn't last forever. And then the final answer is night weaning and sleep training eventually if you're down for it.

Shanna

Yes. All right, Laura, I think that's it. I think we did it. We answered all the check in the inbox questions.

Laura

Our inbox is at zero. That will last five whole seconds.

Shanna

Exactly.

Laura

That was so much fun.

Shanna

It was. It was so much fun. Listeners, don't let our inbox stay at zero for too long. Please reach out. We want to know what you think about our Check in the Inbox answers if you have any thoughts or feedback on that, or if you have any more questions for our next Check in the Inbox segment. Laura, remind everyone where they can reach us.

Laura

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Shanna

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